As summer winds down, and the nights become cooler; I am reminded of days past when my kids were young. I dreaded this time of year. Them going back to school. The fussing and fighting in the mornings getting ready for school. Arguing over breakfast and making sure they at least started the day out right.
Worrying about how many days they would skip this year and whether or not they were going to graduate. Whether or not they would have all the necessary classes and if they were putting in all the effort that I knew they were capable. Learning new things with them and discovering the world with them. Taking a day off to go on a field trip.
The best things in life are most definitely not free. They can be very expensive, but so worth the time, effort, energy and money that we invest in them.
The best things in life – at least in mine – are my kids. Expensive little creeps! 🙂
Bittersweet memories. That lump in my throat when they flew from the nest. Not because I am concerned or worried. That lump is my heart at how beautiful they each are, and how incredibly proud I am of all three of them. The men they have grown into. The considerate, honorable, integrity driven, loyal and kind human beings they each are. So different, but possessing an internal character that is undeniably their own.
It’s difficult for me to believe yesterday they were toddling around in diapers and getting bumps and bruises from learning to walk and ride their bikes and skateboarding. I looked at them today and was startled at the grown men standing in front of me. LOL – My heart lept out of my chest and into my throat and asked – When did that happen? I was watching and looking and didn’t wish their childhoods away. Jerks. Didn’t they know they were supposed to stay little and small?
Someone asked me what I wanted to do with my life now. Truth is – I hadn’t even really considered what I wanted to be other than their Mom. Oh, I know that I will always be their Mom. It feels like this giant pill I keep trying to swallow. Except I don’t take pills so I’m having a super difficult time trying to convince myself to swallow it.
The best thing in life. Being a Mom. From the time I found out I was pregnant, to the grueling labor and hip bone to hip bone incision and the near car birth and the fights, and the hugs, and the discipline and the weeks of not talking because I was afraid that I would say something I couldn’t take back. The expensive Xbox’s, football gear, unexpected trips to the ER for stitches and broken bones.
Being their Mom has been the most awesome adventure ever. I know it’s not over yet and we still have LOTS of firsts together. Letting them out of my sight and trusting that I gave them all the information they needed to begin their lives, and trusting that they will call or text or email or Facebook when they need something is a little anxiety ridden. Still, there’s some melancholy in the quiet of the house, the empty bedrooms and the cleanliness that comes when no one is at home.
Strange to find myself saying I miss the 20 hour days, the long treks for visitation, the picky eaters and the not so picky eaters. I miss the questions and the friends and the laughter coming from the living room from playing on-line and hearing them connect with people from all over the world. I miss the arguments and the making up and the wrestling in the living room and sitting on the counters in the kitchen while I cooked someone’s favorite meal and omitted onions.
It’s like taking the training wheels of their bikes and watching them ride down the road unprotected. Crazy mixed up feelings – fear, pride, joy – holding them inside until they turn around with the most gorgeous smile on their face of triumph at riding down the road unassisted and riding back to you and throwing their arms around you for one of the best hugs ever and grins from ear to ear.
They could do it all along. I always knew they could. Just wasn’t ready for the “DID” of them doing so well.
As I write this, I’m kinda kicking myself in the butt and telling myself I did a good job while laughing at myself because this lump and heaviness in my chest region is nothing more than a reminder of how much I really do love my brats. Wishing I hadn’t done such a good job and chastising myself for doing what I set out to do. 🙂
I’m gonna be missing those three.
I know that I will see them soon.
I know they will enjoy every day.
Guess it’s time to go and find something to do to fill up all this time I have on my hands now. 😉